The G-spot is a magical area, not really a spot. Your incredible G-spot is like the tip of an orgasmic iceberg when it comes to pleasure. When you tap into its power, you get access to the kind of sexual pleasure that can transform your entire life (seriously).
The magic of your G-spot comes through its ability to achieve the blended orgasm. It’s called blended because the sensation of pleasure in your G-spot is the result of three major nerve pathways vibrating together to achieve one blended sensation of intense-pussy and deep-pelvic pleasure.
Although (scientifically speaking) we have a LOT more to discover about our nervous system when it comes to sex, we are absolute believers that your vagus nerve joins the party during G-spot stimulation. This is why your G-spot climax feels more relaxed than a purely clitoral climax.
It’s also the source of female ejaculation. Yes! Female ejaculation is a G-spot thing and understanding this source of magic sensation will reveal just how much your body is capable of.
To activate your G-spot and experience new worlds of sensation, you have to relax and OPEN yourself to pleasure. The kind of pleasure that your G-spot represents is not just any-old-erotic-sensation … it’s about being able to FULLY connect to deeper emotions.
This openness makes you feel vulnerable, and can trigger a lot of scary emotions, sexual shame, and past trauma. But when you relax and celebrate your pleasure, you open yourself to the deeper, life-changing healing POWER of your G-spot.
Years ago in our western culture when no one understood what the G-spot was, women would be scolded for peeing in bed. We can imagine women crushed and embarrassed by this misunderstanding, becoming more and more tense and self-conscious over the centuries. The remnants of that idea created a complex matrix of sexual shame that still lives in most women’s G-spot area even now. The physical expression of this shame reveals itself in women who have a hard time connecting with the sensation of orgasm, and who experience pelvic armoring.
But your G-spot is here to HEAL your sexual shame by helping you connect to the power of being seen, heard, and experiencing your body and your pleasure just FOR YOU, and for no one else.
So the superpower of your G-spot is its ability to transform sexual shame into sexual power. You can harness that power for yourself simply by exploring your G-spot, and its ability to ejaculate. Because ejaculating is like a celebration of your goddess-given gift of pleasure! Quite the opposite of shame.
Centuries before all of this shame-making, the superancients dubbed the magical waters that flowed from the G-spot, amrita, which translates to immortal nectar, or nectar of the Gods. They believed that this magical liquid carried the force of life inside of it, and could even be used to extend life and heal the body. Amrita is famously known for treating soldiers traumatized by the experience of combat and violence (1).
Scientifically speaking there’s very little we know about the nervous system (especially when it comes to sex), but the superancients have been exploring, mapping, and using the nervous system during practice for thousands of years. So superanciently speaking, your G-spot is the first direct entry point for vagus nerve stimulation, and so we see three major nerve pathways (pudendal, pelvic, and vagus nerves) converging there.
The pelvic and pudendal nerves are part of the 12th cranial hypoglossal nerve, and the vagus nerve is the 10th cranial nerve. These two major nerves are responsible for most of your body’s sensory and motor function.
Because G-spot area stimulation is a combo of these major nerve pathways, you’re tapping into some incredibly deep, emotionally-charged sensation! When stimulated, your incredible G-spot is capable of blended orgasm—a combination of the uterine/cervix orgasm (pelvic and vagus nerves) and the clitoral orgasm (pudendal nerve).
Until very recently the vagus nerve was thought to have stopped just short of your pelvis … BUT NOW we have scientific proof that your vagus nerve enters your sex system (see Looking For More? section below).
The vagus nerve also controls the larynx. Making sound, breathing deeply, and the apnea response are controlled by your larynx. The apnea response causes you to hold your breath during orgasmic climax … then exhale with intensity. The apnea response is responsible for laughing, crying, screaming, yawning, and all emotional responses in your body. So again, we can see the direct connection between emotion and your vagus nerve (and G-spot).
Your G-spot is a part of a network of erectile tissue, just like the stuff found in the male penis. This impressively vast network includes the clit, the G-spot, the clitoral legs and perineal sponge, and the urethral sponge.
The main function of your G-spot is to create and store female ejaculate. During arousal, this area becomes engorged with blood and the G-spot glands fill with ejaculate. Once this happens the organ of the G-spot can easily be felt through the vaginal wall.
To find your G-spot, take a look and gently feel around the top side of your vaginal canal.
About 70% of women have a ramp-shaped G-spot that’s closer to their vaginal opening. About 7% of women have a G-spot that is deeper inside of the vaginal canal. The G-spot feels like a ridged space just inside the vagina (usually), along the top of the canal.
FUN FACT: the prostate has been called the “male G-spot,“ but a woman’s G-spot has about 40 glands and ducts. That’s THREE times the number found in the male prostate!
Still curious about the magical and wonderful world of your G-spot? Here are a few common questions that might help you explore this area more.
How do I find my G-spot?
About 70% of women have a ramp-shaped G-spot that you will find closer to the vaginal opening. Sometimes it’s a lot closer than you think it might be. To find it, feel for a ridged area on the top side of your vaginal canal (feels a bit like the ridges on the roof of your mouth, but a smaller area). When you push on this area you might feel an interesting sensation mixed with pleasure and the feeling of needing to go pee.
Isn’t “female ejaculation” just urine?
NO! Female ejaculate is NOT urine. When tested in a lab, ejaculate has “a higher PH, more gravity, less urea, and less creatinine,” than urine. (source: Female Ejaculation and the G-spot, by Deborah Sundahl)
And even if it were urine, that shouldn’t matter—it’s just another bodily fluid! (Pee, BTW, is also super sterile and can also be used to enhance a sexual experience). When we take away the shame around female ejaculate (or urine), we make room for bigger, more amazing experiences. So gush away!!
I can’t have G-spot orgasms; I only get off when I use clitoral stimulation.
Your G-spot orgasm is highly dependent on the strength of your pelvic floor muscles (or, pubococcygeal muscles). If those muscles are weak it will be more difficult for you to connect to the deeper, fuller sensation in your G-spot area, and definitely your ejaculation. So, get into the habit of strengthing your PC muscles DAILY.
And sometimes it’s essential to take a step back. Focus instead on just opening yourself to SENSATION in your G-spot area. Your orgasm doesn’t want to be forced or rushed along. Relaxing and connecting to your body with G-spot stimulation will eventually open you up to deeper sensation, fuller orgasms, and transformational HEALING.
I really want to ejaculate … how do I do it?
Ejaculate build up feels a little like you might have to pee. Being able to relax, trust your body and push out your ejaculate is something you need to get comfy with if you want to learn to ejaculate. The biggest hurdle is (as we mentioned above), getting out of the idea that it’s bad to pee during sex and transforming that bullshit shame story into a powerful ejaculation instead! Just relax and push … and see what happens.
Want to go deeper? Everyone deserves access to pleasure, and connecting with sensation in your G-spot can provide the kind of healing that seriously transforms your life.
There are a few techniques and practices that we like, to help with opening up sensation in your G-spot:
Pelvic floor exercise (PC muscle exercise)
We’ll continuously update this section with more resources for you, but if you want to learn more, you can check out the following:
Female Ejaculation & The G-Spot by Deborah Sundahl
Eve’s Secrets, Josephine Lowndes Sevely, PhD.